Very few people get married with divorce as a backup plan. Most of us walk into marriage with the mentality that no matter what comes our way we will be able to get through it with our partner. When this does not end up being the case it is one of the more devastating realizations a person can face. When the question of divorce comes up, for most it is not a relief but a wall of emotion that no one wants to climb. Deciding to divorce is such a difficult decision because there are very few parts of life that aren’t touched by this transition. The impact is magnified when kids, extended families and communities are involved. On top of it being a difficult initial decision, the path that one takes and decisions made along the way can quickly destroy the hope of a peaceful and happy life post-divorce.
On the flip side, depending on how this transition plays out and the attitudes each party has, divorce can be a runway to a better reality for everyone involved, a release from constant unbearable stress, and a path to internal freedom.
The benefit of having a thinking partner during this transition in a person’s life is beyond measure. A divorce coach is not pro-divorce. Most have been through divorce and understand personally the negative impact it can have. But most coaches also understand that sometimes divorce is a needed step, and that there is a different way of approaching a separation or divorce that can be life-giving and significantly easier for parents and children.
Focusing on your children’s best interest, thinking outside the box with the way you approach and communicate to your ex-spouse, and exploring all the options for your future with the right financial advisor, therapist, lawyer, etc. are just a few things that can really change the path a divorce takes.
The real weight of divorce comes with the reality that the future is up to you. No one else can write your story for you. Reach out to see if a divorce coach can be helpful for your journey.
